If you're living on a shoestring budget you know that we have to say no to a lot of things.
"No, we can't go on that field trip"
"No, we can't afford the gas to drive to the relatives house."
"No, I can't renew the cell phone contract."
"No, we can't upgrade our Internet or get cable TV."
"No, we can't do that activity at this time."
I've had to say each of those things several times since I've become a stay at home mother. It can be hard for my children to understand why I need to say no. I try to come up with alternatives for the field trips and activities, but for some things I can't make an alternative.
For example, we have a small farm. I've yearned for life on the farm since I was a child and I do pay dearly to have my farm. I must work to pay for the feed, hay, animals, fencing, vet bills, etc. I have to make time in my schedule for milking, feeding, and caring for the animals, while caring for my family, cooking our meals, cleaning the house, homeschooling, and working at home! My children sometimes get angry that I can't afford to take them to every activity available, and it's not just the money that prevents us from going, it's also the time. Running a farm on top of a household takes enormous amounts of time. There is always something that needs to have been done-yesterday!
My teenage son hates that he doesn't have his own cell phone. He seems to think he is the only teen in the world without his own phone! Truthfully, even if we could afford him to have one, we wouldn't. Thankfully, I've been blessed with a son who understands it's not in the budget, however, he still wishes he had one. The only alternative I've found is face book. Many, if not all, teens have a face book and it's usually connected to their phones, so it's "almost" texting!
My husband struggles with not having cable. He loves football season! He likes to watch every single game. We were seriously looking at getting cable put in. We ran our budget and tried to see what we could cut out. Thankfully, we realized that it wasn't the best choice for us at this time. He has found that he can watch many of the games on Justin TV online. He's also able to watch some games on our local channels that we get with our antenna.
As a family, we can say no to the good things so we are able to say yes to the best things! There's no better place for me to be than at home with my children!
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