Monday, November 22, 2010

Supporting Your Spouse

Sometimes being the support person is a hard job. It means saying no when you want to say yes. Walking away when you want to stay. Such is the life of a wife whose husband is just starting his own business.

I grew up with a self employed father so I know the whole feast or famine routine by heart. I knew times would be tough and money would be tight. I'll be honest though, and admit that I was hoping we'd start out in a feast routine!! Since we're not yet rolling in the dough I'm learning to say no.

No we can't drive out to a friend's house ( even though we all really really want to).
I'm sorry but we're going to have to give up field trips for a little while.
Pick three things you really want for Christmas.
Let's make homemade ornaments this year instead of buying Hallmark ones.

It can be tough trying to help your children realize that it's a gift to be able to encourage their daddy by saying no. I won't lie- sometimes I forget that it's a gift as well.

Right now we're in a season of it's just enough. Needs are covered with not much left over and we're all learning to say no.

1 comment:

Tori said...

This is a great post, especially at this time of year. I'm trying to simplify our holiday expectations this year, but the spectre of how we've "always done it" can make it difficult. Best of luck in your new adventure with the self-employment!